The term “successful divorce” may not exist in the dictionary of many who prefer separation without being aware or aware of the consequences of divorce, which, once it occurs, leads to a series of problems that gray the head.
The courts and their squares testify to the miserable situation experienced by some divorced people following divorce from many problems, which are ignited by both divorced couples, as each of them tries to restrain the other, forgetting that the only loser first and foremost is the children.
A successful divorce and thinking rationally and balancedly to arrange the situation after divorce may be the way that fills the crater of many disasters. One of my friends who fell into the same problem says: “Circumstances have wanted to find ourselves in a dead end completely after a marriage journey that lasted more than ten years and resulted in three children. Life has narrowed us from ‘strangles’ and daily quarrels that I find no explanation for other than the mental incompatibility between us as a couple. I do not hide from you that the separation happened more than once between us. The divorce came to put a line in the continuation of this relationship. The divorce happened based on studied foundations we put to preserve the psyche of our children, who may have suffered the bitterness of this divorce more steadfastly and strongly.
Of course, we were trying to make them calm and away from the strangles that were causing them trauma while they expecting a glimmer of hope that their painful scenes would be removed. The strange and funny thing about what happened is that we have become more in agreement about taking care of our children while we are separated, unlike when we were married, where each of us placed the responsibility of taking care of our children on the other.”
My friend continues: “We do not call for ‘creating enmity’ as much as we want to reach a settlement that alleviates the consequences of the divorce on the two parties in the event of a lack of compatibility between them. We always find that children are the victims of our behavior. We must direct the mind in the right direction so that both parents can achieve what they couldn't achieve while they were married.
Divorce itself is a responsibility that entails many obligations and provisions, especially with the presence of children, and the couple must take into account the psychological, educational, and social aspects resulting from it, and they do not submit to it except after studying the consequences and results. The divorce decision comes only as a result of poor cohabitation, division, and conflict, which makes life impossible.
Despite the seriousness of this step, which is the end of a marital relationship, it may sometimes be the only way to preserve the rest of this family, which has lost the element of understanding and coexistence in calm.
